Wedding Planning: The Good, The Bad & The Ugly!

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

While I’m actually enjoying putting together ideas, the planning hasn’t been too stressful. We’ve been working with a destination wedding specialist & she’s been great! A little slow on response times, but still good nonetheless. With her help, we’ve picked out a location that works best with our needs & budget. Everyone will be able to book their travel through her & she’ll work to find the best price/package for everyone. The best part is that we don’t have to pay for her service either! When our guests book through her, she gets a commission from the resort for bringing in business. So with her help, we win & she wins! It almost sounds too good to be true, but Luke’s friend used her to plan her wedding & she couldn’t be happier with how everything panned out! Talk about really taking the stress out planning the logistics! :)

While I’m talking about the planning and what not, I just have to say that some people sure do have an opinion about what kind of wedding you should plan & who you should invite & they also have no problems telling you - or telling a family member to tell you... (yeah that happened, too).

There is this...

Some people have such an opinion about where you should get married, who you should invite, who you should ask to be in your wedding, etc... I've told a few people what our wedding plans are and have gotten some sideways looks. I understand that our destination wedding isn't what everyone would want, but it's what WE want. I've heard things through the grapevine that make me roll my eyes. I just keep thinking, why are people so opinionated about a wedding that isn't their own? This is a happy time people - why the drama? Has this happened to anyone else?

And then there's this one...

Last year I couldn’t make it out to my cousin’s wedding in Philadelphia. I really wish that I could’ve & had even been trying to set aside money for the trip. With so many other commitments that we had already planned & paid for, starting a new job & draining my savings account to put a down payment on a house, I just didn’t have the money or time off to make it happen. Nothing personal, I truly did want to make the trip out there. Well, right before the wedding I received a very nasty e-mail from her & she has since cut off ties with me. If the roles were reversed, which now they are since I’m getting married, I would say “I’m really bummed that you can’t make it – I know you’d have to fly across the country, pay for a plane ticket, pay for a hotel, take unpaid time off of work – but I understand – it’s A LOT to ask, so I’m not mad”.

With that being said, for everyone that receives an invitation to our wedding, we’d love for you to be able to join us for our special day, but if the funds are tight & you can’t take time off, I totally understand. I understand that it’s a lot to ask. I would be forever grateful if you could make it, but if you can’t, I totally get it. It’s a shame that some people get bent out of shape & go to such extreme measures like completely shutting you out over it.

I do want to know though...
Have you planned a wedding?
Did people have opinions about what you should/shouldn't do?
Wedding planning drama? I want to hear it! I can probably relate right now, too! haha

But in all seriousness, we're having a lot of fun with wedding planning. We're not losing sight of what's really important. At the end of the day it's about our commitment to each other and not the wedding itself. We could go down to the courthouse and make it official now - but we'd rather have our family & friends right there by our side to celebrate with us :)

8 comments:

  1. I think there is no way of getting away from drama. But as I tell others as I help them with weddings, it is THEIR day and for them to do what THEY want, not what everyone else wants.

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  2. planning a wedding is like a second job... when ours was over i was super bored and didn't know what to do with myself. there is always drama where money is involved and having i think when you have a destination wedding people need to understand that although you would love for them to be able to attend, you also completely understand if they cannot make it happen. our biggest source of drama was our wedding planner... she was a nightmare... always follow your gut. if i had, we'd never have hired her!

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  3. It's stories like this that make me scared to get married. Everyone I've known who has gotten married has had some sort of family drama-for-your-mama that is totally unnecessary!

    Hopefully your cousin will come to her senses one of these days.

    Good luck!

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  4. Keep telling yourself (and anybody else that has an opinion) it's YOUR wedding. Don't want flowers? Don't order them. Want it to be just you guys? Don't invite anybody else and take a video to post on the blog. Simple as that. If they give you grief just say, "whose wedding is it?" that'll shut them up. Good luck! : )

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  5. Personally, I couldn't be happier with the choices you've made - but even that doesn't matter. I KNOW you and Luke are pumped for your wedding and that's. what. counts. Cannot wait for this epic lovefest! Arriba!

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  6. I always kept in mind that old saying that opinions are like a**holes when I was planning my wedding. lol

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  7. I just found your blog when someone linked to you on Twitter, and this post was one of the first I read! I got married about a month and a half ago, but I still love reading about other people planning their wedding.

    Ours was pretty small and somewhat non-traditional. We definitely got flack from people for some of the things we did (and didn't do).

    I'm totally happy to chat about wedding planning! All that matters is that you're doing what you want, and you're excited about it. At the end of the day, you'll be married and that's the most important thing.

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  8. I lucked up! You had a recent post :)
    1. I planned a wedding and it was called off. I'm so glad it was b/c the planned wedding was about everyone else rather than us.
    We eloped. March is 10 years. No regrets.
    2. I think destination weddings are the way to go! The people who can come do and who can't don't. Plus it's just fun. I will say I have been to some awesome weddings. Lots of fun an celebrations, and though we had an awesome time I'm glad I wasn't the one putting it together. No thanks :)
    3. It's about what you and Luke want. This marriage is about your lives together. Stick with that and you have a foundation for a happy marriage. I agree the support and family and friends is vital, the majority of the time it's going to be about you and him.

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